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December was a month full of good surprises and moments of inspiration..

Wishing you a wonderful Christmas…

Once my brother had a rabbit. A cute little brown rabbit called “Brownie” or “Bruintje” in Dutch. I saw it grow up over time and became attached to it. I loved spending time with the animal and giving candies every now and then. It was always so happy jumping around and loved to be chased, or maybe not but anyway I loved chasing it. It was stubborn, eating away nice flowers. It was also hell of a job to get Bruintje into its cage after hours of running and chasing. We made jokes about serving it for X-Mas dinner (Flappie – Youp van ‘t Hek = famous Dutch X-Mas song) but of course we never did. Turkey was more attractive!

Then there came a day when my brother decided to return it to its parents house at the farm because my brother didn’t have time to look after it anymore. I was madly sad about it but I realized I didn’t have the means and environment to keep it. Not long after the movement came the sudden sad message that it had died… attacked by another animal on the farm. It had been too weak to survive.

I was heart-broken by the idea how it had suffered so much in its last hours of its life but more important I was sad I was never ever going to be able to see Bruintje once more again for teasing, hugs and plays. All I have now are some pictures and memories and I seek comfort in the fact that we had some good fun moments together.

Have you ever experienced the feeling to loose something you deeply care for?
One day you spend time together, then next day has suddenly disappeared somewhere in the past… as if it had never really existed.

Cherish the warmth and love around you these Christmas days,
All the best, Jane

Almost ready, freshly backed straight from the oven! My cupcakes for tonight’s party! They smell so nice!

Start learning to think beyond the borders of your own consciousness to get more out of yourself an others. How to start? Be open-minded to feedback from others and the rest will follow!

Hi folks! Humor @T3sco! Don’t hope you come home one day to find strange tarts in your house – LOL Got this card during one of my visits to the UK this summer. Great laughs and good times back then.

Ready to go to sleep any time soon? Read this:

Preparations before you go to bed

- Imagine while undressing your clothes piece by piece to set aside all worries and responsibilities of that day.
- Go through the day in detail and appreciate the positive experiences and achievements. Be ready to learn from the things you didn’t do that well today.
- Lie on your back in bed and feel the contact between your body and the bed. Gradually start relaxing from your feet, through your legs, hips, stomach, shoulders towards your head.
- When you feel totally relaxed you are ready to fall asleep.

Sweet dreams! -x-

Ain’t No Doubt
JIMMY NAIL

She says ‘it’s not you – it’s me
I need a little time, a little space
a place to find myself again you know?’
oh yes, I know a goodbye when I hear it
she smiles
but her heart’s already out there
walking down the street

she says
‘I don’t want nobody else, I love you’
she’s lying
‘there won’t be somebody else, and that’s true’
she’s lying
‘say you’ll always be my friend, sweet darling’
why does she pretend?

ain’t no doubt, it’s plain to see
a woman like you is no good for me
your heart’s beating at another door
I’m a damned fool for to ask for more

she says
‘it’s like in a song, remember?
“if you love someone, set them free”
well, that’s how it is for me
but you know i’ll always come back
and then she kisses me
and somewhere I hear a door slam
so I say ‘fine’
and just hope that I’m a better liar
than she is

Have you ever wondered how it is possible that in a group of unknown people you always find some people you can feel at ease with? How can both your consciousness and unconsciousness make you like certain people? All questions you can probably spend a life time on thinking and studying.
Today I’d like to share my ideas on the degree of cohesion with a certain amount of people in a group. Since I like using colors I’d like to use the colors green, orange and red to illustrate my thoughts.

Take a group of ten people including yourself all unfamiliar to each other. If you would put this group of people in a restricted location, let’s say on a nice and shiny tropical island, I firmly believe you will be able to see the following emerge over time:

At first everyone is neutral towards each other but that will soon change after you have spent some time with those nine people. You will find out there are people you find more interesting than others. On average this will be three of the nine people. The six that remain are the ones you don’t realIy feel anything with. I would like to name those the green circle and consists the type of people you might see every day at work or on the streets but with whom you are not really emotionally attached to. Connections are rather neutral.

With three people out of this group of ten in total you will feel connected in a way. Those are people you feel comfortable with. Those can be people with whom you for example like to have a conversation, do sports or go to the movies with. I call this type of people part of the orange circle. The color that indicated building ~ p a r t i e s ~ with friends (think of Dutch Queensday). You might let them into you life but it can also be quite superficial depending on what you allow them to see from yourself. I’ve noticed that there are people who only like to have superficial friends because that’s safe for them. Personally I can’t understand that, because it makes me think that those people are not open for or maybe even afraid for any feedback and improvement in their lives.

With one of those three you will be able to build up a more intimate friendship (not necessarily relationship). This person would belong to your red circle of friends. Some people only need to just have the constant physical company of the other in order to feel this intimate. Others need to have the constant flow of feel-good-moments to have this unique click. I personally think that such friendship will have to develop over time and willingness to creating time to see each other is important. Be aware that with this one person it acquires a lot more efforts to keep connected since your level of interaction is the highest. Trust, honesty and open-minded attitude and willingness to communicate are key here. But if the intentions from both parties is right this should be no problem. For some people this might sound scary since this person sees you very closely. This friendship will give you energy but ONLY if you have put enough energy and time into it YOURSELF. If it doesn’t work out it is only yourself to blame, not the other person. This can lead to the red blood of pain. However, if you choose to make it work it will give you the beautiful red heart in return *yay!*. It’s up to you to make this consideration, but always handle with sincere *respect*.

Always be careful if you give feedback as you might hurt the other person’s feelings and that’s the last thing you want because you care about him/her. Don’t forget that this tropical island is a place with restricted borders. If you run away from it unsolved, you can be assured that somehow and sometime it will get back to you no matter how much you try to avoid or forget. You will continuously run rounds around the island, leading you every time to the point where you ran away. Is *that* your way? Hopefully not anymore after having read this. Wishing you the best friendships ever!

Jane